The invention belongs to the field of engine lubricants, and relates to preparation of an extreme pressure anti-wearing additive and energy-saving environmental-friendly engine oil containing same. Preparation of the extreme pressure anti-wearing additive comprises the following steps: dissolving 
lanthanum bromide into 
distilled water, stirring till a clear and transparent liquid, dropping an 
ethanol solution containing polymeric 
ionic liquid modified 
graphene and 
sodium carbonate drop by drop under violent stirring, then the solution can be white and muddy immediately, implementing constant-temperature reaction, after reaction is completed, leaving to stand and precipitate, filtering, washing the precipitate for multiple times with 
distilled water, further washing for multiple times with absolute ethyl 
alcohol, finally washing for multiple times with a 
potassium tetrafluoroborate solution, implementing particle exchange, 
drying so as to obtain a sample, and 
grinding for later use. The energy-saving environmental-friendly engine oil containing the extreme pressure anti-wearing additive comprises basic oil, an anti-wearing agent, the extreme pressure anti-wearing additive, a high-temperature 
antioxidant, a 
clearing agent, a dispersing agent, a 
viscosity index improver, and the like. The engine oil designed from the extreme pressure anti-wearing additive is relatively good in bearing capability and extreme pressure anti-wearing property, and is relatively good in environmental-friendliness.